Is this living?

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   earsz ~ 18 months ago

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   33, huh. Sounds like typical *ducks* male mid-life crisis questioning to me (average: 35). joking. But, how old was that guy from Finland? And, would your g/f go with you? Or, would you even want her to do so? One of my daughters seems to have found a way to have it all: family, house, world travel, significant work, friends, and more. And of course, husband and kids all share that same life. Me, every time a choice came up, it seems I opted for "safe." Did you? After all, you're the only one who can answer your own question as to whether "this" is living.
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   Dr. Fallon ~ 18 months ago

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   Taking the coward's way out...can't answer your question, because it is soooo your question and not mine. But I wish you good luck and good advice making your decision.
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   varga ~ 18 months ago

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   The Dice-man is a very interesting and thought-provoking book... I think no matter what you do, a certain routine will come in. I think the most interesting journeys you can have is when you challenge yourself and get to know yourself. I know some people who travelled around the world, and all they have is postcards showing where they've been but no significant marks showing they learned something. On the other hand, if one travels with an open mind and goes outside the tourist-traps it might be a totally different story. Hmm, I don't have an answer either to if it is life, though I think eventually you will know if it is what you want or not. Good luck.
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   graeme ~ 18 months ago

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   A few thoughts .... (1) the more you travel and see the options available to you, the harder it is to find the ideal combination. Eventually you realise that like everything in life, your lifestyle is a compromise. This is not to suggest you shouldn't travel - for many it increases knowledge and creates a sense of perspective and contentment with what we have. (2) the grass often looks greener on the other side - and sometimes it is, but often its not. (3) you only get one go at life - so be true to yourself and follow your instincts. If you go for it, you can have no regrets in later life that you were too scared to try - good luck!
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   prettyfly ~ 18 months ago

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   Life is for living and I say go with your instincts. Better to look back and say at least you did something, than have a past full of regrets. Good luck!!
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   MazY ~ 18 months ago

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   I believe it to be a common weakness, across the entire human species, to feel that your life is nowhere near as enjoyable or as enriched as the lives of other people.
   
   The reality, I find, is that everyone has the same questions and issues that you do, relative to their own existence.
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   asmo ~ 17 months ago

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   I know exactly how you feel shanks, as you know I was in the same situation, and now I have 2 months left before I'm finished with this game. I woke up one day in tecnomen and realised that my life had grown stagnant, and that I had to do something to change it. Let me know when you come up with that killer business plan we always talked about.
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   talluleh28 ~ 14 months ago

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   Ah Armi.....im going through the same thing (Im exactly the same age as you and I call it a mid life crisis LOL)...... I think when we get to a certain point in our lives, we stop, do a stocktake and think is this enough? We all yearn to achieve, and experience more out of life......I know that I have everything I wished for, yet I feel its not enough and I want to achieve more. Dr Fallon is right, you need to answer that question yourself mate.
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   jbravo ~ 14 months ago

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   I hear ya, mate! I've been going through this type of crisis for the last 10 years. I'm in no position to make any big changes in my life right now. In the process of searching, I've definitely found out new and exciting things about myself. Sometimes I think that the journey is more important than the destination.
   
   As other people have said, you need to make your own choices. Just be sure to keep your commitments -- to stay true to yourself and others. The world will be a better place because of it.
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    kaisersosa ~ 14 months ago

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    i wouldnt call this a crisis or even question your motives, instead, ill answer in my own way and youll see it in however way you see fit.
    
    i think that to be truly happy in your life you have to be happy in yourself first, once you have anaysed what it will take to make you happy, make you feel alive instead of feeling like some drone, just another face, then you can start to consder the ramifications of making the changes necessary and what effect it will have on those closest to you, once done then the answer is quite simple, go for it, make the move, make it happen, if its something you truly want then go for it, or at least try and do something other than the mindless stuff for once.....hope it worls out for you
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    Aims ~ 14 months ago

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    I think it's interesting that the Diceman has influenced how you're thinking. By all means question your life, perhaps you should be in a different job if you're bored, but that is a book about morality rather than real life choices. I found the rape bit quite controversial. It's about doing something you get the chance to do rather than questioning if it is the right thing.
    One point is: If all of those things were gone how would you cope (gf, house, etc...) Then i think you have your answer. If you're not that bothered then maybe you should just take off. If you would miss them terribly then don't.
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    r_jay ~ 13 months ago

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    Since you like to read books, I would refer to you "Ecclesiastes", one of the book in the bible. I am not the type who is very religous and the one who likes reading bible. But lately I tried opening it and I find that particular book very good.
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    r_jay ~ 13 months ago

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    "I know that I have everything I wished for, yet I feel its not enough and I want to achieve more. Dr Fallon is right, you need to answer that question yourself mate. "
    
    yeah. I had observed this really weird but very true. At first we want to achieve something. Then, when we got what we want, we end up wanting for more.
    
    Like what i have said early the book of Ecclesiastes says something about this. Let me post some of it....
    Maybe you would think that I am a very religous person but I am not. It was just lately that I felt something that leads me to read it.
    
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    Everything Is Meaningless
    1 The words of the Teacher, [a] son of David, king in Jerusalem:
    2 "Meaningless! Meaningless!"
    says the Teacher.
    "Utterly meaningless!
    Everything is meaningless."
    
    3 What does man gain from all his labor
    at which he toils under the sun?
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    "This is the question we are asking ourselves, aren't we?"
    
    
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    I, the Teacher, was king over Israel in Jerusalem. 13 I devoted myself to study and to explore by wisdom all that is done under heaven. What a heavy burden God has laid on men! 14 I have seen all the things that are done under the sun; all of them are meaningless, a chasing after the wind.
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    "These were the words of the teacher, King Solomon, son of
    David. Like everyone he also did what his heart yearns to do.
    He engage in evrything his heart desires. Richest, wealth,
    women, wine, etc. But after all the the things he have done
    h still finds it meaningless. A chasing after the wind."
    
    
    Now, evreybody may read Ecclesiastes for theirselves. I can't post all here.
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    AdGuy

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    This is my two cents...
    
       
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